This week I want to take a load of stress off your shoulders. Don’t you want to be light and free. Free to be you. Then, let me share a little secret with you. You have to, absolutely must, let others be free—to make their own decisions. To live their own life. Your interfering is making you and them miserable, and if you are honest, not changing their mind and heart to your way of thinking. Oh, I understand you think you know what’s best for them. And, you may be right. It would be better if they listened to your sage advice. If they would quit drinking. If they would change jobs. If they would just leave their abusive relationship and start some counseling and self-care. But no matter how much you manipulate, cajole, brow-beat, each must live their own life.
So, what do you and I do in the meantime while we wait for our loved one to get help? We can pray! We can ask God to help us focus our attention on things that are actually under our own control. We can work on our own issues. We can serve others. We can work for causes that need our attention. And when the time is right, we can walk beside our loved one on their road to recovery.
Enjoy your journey, Linda